©️®️A Look at Healthier “Parenting” or Adult Guidance through the Revision of a “ToughLove Parents Manual...”

     Hi I go by EVE (J.R.P. Identity theft graft and fraud not to mention defamation of character due to this and mistaken identity have led me to having to identify by a different name since I haven’t legally chosen a new name yet Eve seemed like a great choice a nickname since Fall of 2020 on a trip to Chicago brought it about, a new start hopefully, eventually and maybe people can take responsibility for what they have done to my name , done in my name, forged my name, claimed my name, claiming they know me or my heart, words, mind , past, anything is a lie I am the only one unless you have legal documentation, pictures, videos, evidence etc. who was and still legally am this name ( and my previous names that were legal and one given to me as a kidnapped kid legalish ) so Eve for the Eve of the downfall of many including child pornography, child trafficking, illegal black market selling, propagation of babies, child abuse or abused children, child rape and sexual abuse and assault, child molestation, kidnapping of children, missing children, murdered children, those who cause or a a catalyst for children to commit Suicide, lost children, ashamed children, angry children, sad children, bloodthirsty children, locked up children, shamed children, black sheep children, scapegoated children, barely surviving children, victimized children, lonely children, forgotten and abandoned children, disowned children, traumatized children, independent or dependent children, hunted children, confused children, misunderstood children, unaccepted children, tattletale children, silent children, lied/deceived/betrayed children, abusive children, bully or bullied children, last/middle/first children, excused children, lifted children, ALL children really is who I am doing this for including those of you adults who have inner children still within them. 

     A quote of mine is ,”Save yourself at a younger age.” Which means just because things were bad for you or me when we were kids doesn’t mean that you can’t change the outcome for children and youth growing up today!

     My own experiences with: parents, staff, professionals, law enforcements, family, friends or NOT friends, mentors, sponsors, lawyers,  meetings of all kinds including business etc., schooling, counseling, services, resources, “helpers”, political or other people or organizations, religious/spiritual/faiths/atheists etc. peoples/leaders/staff or personnel etc..., documentation including but not limited to pamphlets/books/flyers/inter office etc., neighbors, community, society, armed forces, youth oriented places, homeless organizations, Minnesota Department of Health, Psychological people, medical professionals and organizations, insurance companies, councils, businesses and business, colleges and universities, department of corrections, juvenile detention facilities and affiliates, the “justice’ system as a youth and an adult, NAMI, Minnesota Recovery Connection and many other Recovery organizations and affiliated groups/people/materials/training, HIV/STD and STI prevention and or treatment organizations/education/ training etc., Mental Health Organizations/Facilities/people/treatments/training etc., Conferences, Treatment facilities/staff/professionals/affiliates/differing methods etc., Domestic Violence/Stalking/Human Trafficking organizations/shelters/staff/professionals/methods etc., Volunteer work, Careers/jobs starting at 14 years old in 1993 including but not limited to training/methodology/ standards/hands on learning/bosses/trainers/education/work with customers or clients or clientele/company policies/initiatives/benefits or lack thereof etc., Street experience/intelligence/ rebelliousness/knowledge etc., and my own empathic and other abilities plus much more has given me a unique perspective upon many things including Parenting.

      I may not have children myself and I seem to have an inner connection to my own young child self, my teenager, my young adult etc. so much so that I have re-parented myself so that the hangups, trauma, negative or unhealthy situations and experiences of my youth plus adult life do not effect my daily life as much nor my ability to make educated and or knowledgeable,mature decisions about life’s more important matters. I am able to relate pretty well to someone no matter their actual age or the age they act, LOL 😂. I am usually able to reach people on some level regarding many things even touchy or sensitive, controversial, or hard to deal with  Children are the future is a statement that has been around for so many years that you might think we have established a better way to keep them safe, content, whole, protected, believed, listened to, taken care of in all ways including fun and recreation, that they are given enough to more than survive, that their passions and aptitudes are discovered and nourished so they can flourish and thrive, that they are well educated about all manner of subjects (not limited to) including life living skills plus body and sexual or reproductive health, the Environment, Global Economy or Economics, that they have ample opportunities and options to become someone with unlimited possibilities and are not having their lives predetermined due to location or socioeconomic or cultural or racial issues, that we have Mentoring, Youth Centers, places where they can learn about any subject including different Spiritualities or Religions or Faiths or Exposure to Atheists and Atheism not to mention Multi-cultural people or education about them as there are many cultures here in america, that they are given the education and knowledge to learn about responsibility, earning your own way, boundaries, laws, driving, acceptable behavior in __________________, rules & consequences clearly written/established/enforced, access to services, resources, people and genuine help, that we prepare them for an uncertain future as this world does not really have a predetermined outcome which means planning, establishing goals/dreams/ aspirations that are plausible at the right age to maybe say being a rock star astronaut secret agent is maybe too lofty a goal though maybe one of those could flourish if we start doing things to get you prepared for that(age determined for that probably 13-15, depends in each situation otherwise let them dream or be whoever it will probably change in a year to 3 or so), that we would encourage the Spirit of the Holiday Season and not crush out the Magic of that time of year that is a blessing for all who experience even if a non-believer(you too older siblings, or neighbors or whoever wants to crush a child even an Adult who is a bigger kid, take your misery and impart it somewhere else) etc. 

     That we stand by them no matter what, that we try our best to show and demonstrate Love, acceptance, understanding, affection, kindness, fairness, Equality, discipline, mutual responsibility, mutual respect, a well rounded education, (fill in more here)_________________________________________________  and raise them to do the same by making a strong foundation that is unshakable in the face of : adversity, hate, discrimination, predjudice, unsurety*, injustice, terrorism, human slavery and trafficking, abuse, sexual assault, an environment that is failing because we are failing it, lack of affordable housing, slave wages, corruption, crime, drugs and alcohol plus other things like gambling that are easily procured to ease a persons hurt, racism, sexism or gender bias, sexual harassment or sexual bullying, sticky strings from ____________, bullying, lack of follow through, Lies, Deception, betrayal, insecurity,

That predators, predatory peoples, and perpetrators can come in any form, shape, size, color, culture, age, gender or non gender identified, religious or spiritual or faith or atheist affiliation, political standing, career, job, background, socioeconomic standing, education or lack thereof, familial affiliation or lack thereof, societal standing, community, country, tech skills or lack thereof, knowledgeable or not depending on subject, disability, intelligence level, height, weight, eye color, hair type or color, customs, creed, level of power or standing, business owners, scientists, law enforcements, political people, organizations including non-profit, people with causes, animal lovers, leaders, Presidents, CEO CFO COO, managers all the way to the new hire who has yet to be trained, professors, Spiritual or Religious or Faith Leaders their spouses and families, role models, famous, infamous, everyday joe, neighbors, coaches or assistants, counselors, doctors or anyone associated with them down to cleaning staff, local good _________, hero,  the list goes on and on because it includes someone from All walks of life All Cultures or Cultural Backgrounds, All ethnicity, All genders, All ages, All looks, just ALL! This is why their foundation is so extreme crucial for them to succeed and flourish in life which is why it is so important for us to raise them in a healthy environment and support them in any way you can while maintaining your role as, an adult or young adult in their life, a __________________(parent, guardian, mentor, family member, community member, professional, co-parent or guardian, power of attorney, advocate, primary caregiver, staff, organization, companies, teachers, instructors, friend of the family, coach, law enforcement, emergency or first responders, doctor, nurse, techs, sibling older, guardian ad litem, judges, lawyers, store or restaurant or hospitality industry employees, just about anybody who comes into some interaction with children or youth whether you know it or not has an affect or effect upon them, this is for anybody to take some initiative to be a force for change in this world especially with children/youth and you can benefit from this yourselves as well).

     Here’s some preliminary information from the additions and subtractions from the manual I am reviewing as a sort of basis for Healthier Skills with Children and Youth that get you to look at yourself as well as them, as well as circumstances or situations that could be causing the problems, issues, complications, unwanted actions or behavior or misunderstandings of it, there’s so much to take into account and consideration please don’t jump to conclusions or assumptions without an investigation that is honest, thorough, and intelligently well thought out/executed. Assumption makes an ASS out of you and Umption so get some gumption and gumshoe this so all involved are more understood, cared for, accepted, loved, and everything else I discussed above above being a foundation for them and yourself.

This is part 1 of a series that I will be posting, once a week (or more) keep in mind I am homeless on the streets, being hunted and trafficked/slaved, don’t have data or internal WiFi, am reporting on many other subjects, am fighting for lots of causes, am not paid, am alone, not in a safe situation on the streets, so please have patience and ACCEPT NO IMITATIONS I am copied, plagiarized, replagiariazed, and a host of other things like a school showing up at the McDonald’s I am at in Moab, Utah Unscheduled, Stalked much? This is bus number 2 today?!? Please report copyright © infringement from any of my social media as I have had attempts upon my life from everyone I take on and those foisted off upon me due to identity theft, fraud, graft, defamation of character, lies, illegal arrests, illegal charges etc.

Jade Raven Pelton 14:16 Tuesday April 5th, 2022